REFLECTIONS: THE BLOG

REFLECTIONS: THE BLOG

 
Preparing to Let Go: Reflections on My Daughter Leaving for University

 

 

In two weeks' time, my middle daughter will be leaving home for the first time to go to university. This past Sunday, she reflected aloud on som...

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The Birthday I Let Myself Matter: Another legacy of Boarding School?

 

Birthdays. For most people, they're a cause for celebration. For me, they've been a minefield of complicated emotions for most of my life. I th

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For men: How to connect and be more emotionally supportive in relationships.

I'm often aware that I seem to be able to empathise fully with both the female and the male experience at Boarding Schools. Prior to Boarding School, ...

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From Dormitory to Boardroom: How Boarding School Shapes Corporate Lives

Have you ever wondered why so many men who attended boarding school seem drawn to remarkably similar career paths? The corporate world, military, fore...

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May Newsletter - New 6 week Online Course, Book Launch, Talking to Siblings....

 

Hello,

I was deeply saddened to hear of Joy Schaverien’s passing this week, following a stroke a few months ago. Her groundbreaking work on Boar...

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The Hidden Costs of Boarding School: Breaking Family Bonds and Dismissing Parental Intuition

 

When faced with decisions about our children's education, parents are bombarded with glossy brochures, impressive statistics, and the allure of pre...

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Institutional Silence: Female ex-boarders, sexuality, and the lessons of "The Years."

 

Last week, I attended a performance of "The Years," at a London theatre. It is a remarkable production where five different actors bring one woman'...

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Mother’s Day, Boarding School, and the Wounds of Separation

 

This Sunday is Mother’s Day which is often seen as a day filled with love, appreciation, and celebration. But for many ex-boarders, it can be a com...

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The Feminine Fire: Why Women need to step into the Conversation on Boarding School Trauma

At the premiere of Boarding on Insanity, the energy in the room was palpable. As the credits rolled and the Q&A began, I felt a powerful force emanati...

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Being Sent to Coventry at Boarding School: The Hidden Wounds of Social Exclusion.

 

In my women's cohort this week, we heard how "Being Sent to Coventry" can be so damaging for young girls, and how the impact can be felt decades la...

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Family Constellation work and how it helped me take better care of myself

 

Last Saturday I chose to spend the day with a group of strangers doing Family Constellation work.

This involved meeting in a village hall In Lew...

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Gay boy.....
 
If we watch films such as "Another Country" and "If," it is clearly demonstrated how this "banter" begins when the boys are away at school and cont...
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