A free online workshop You have built a life and you have achieved things. From the outside, it might look fine. 

Yet underneath, something doesn't quite add up. Relationships feel harder than they should. There is a restlessness you can't quite explain. A low hum of something unresolved that has been there so long you have almost stopped noticing it. Something is missing but you don’t know what.

If you recognise that, this workshop is for you. 

Dates: 24th September 7pm - Men Only
27th September 10:30am - For Men and Women

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A structured 6 months online programme for ex-boarders to explore how their early experiences have shaped their identity, relationships and emotional life and to begin creating more connected and fulfilling ways of being.

Join at any time and begin on the 1st of the following month.

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In this workshop, I explore the often confusing overlap between neurodivergence and Boarding School Syndrome. I begin by looking at how boarding school may be experienced by a neurodivergent child, before gently unpacking the differences between ADHD, Autism, Complex PTSD and the impact of boarding school trauma.

Many former boarders find themselves wondering, “Am I neurodivergent?” In this video, I help you make sense of your patterns and behaviours, so you can begin to understand what may be linked to ADHD or autism, what may be a response to early separation and trauma, and where and if there may be an overlap of both.

Price: £29.00

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In this workshop, I explain how spending our formative years in a boarding school can influence our behaviour as adults, with a focus on intimacy and relationships. I begin by exploring how your attachment pattern is impacted by going away to school, and how this may show up in your relationships now.

Maybe you keep one foot out of relationships and don’t let yourself depend on anyone, or stay in unhealthy relationships for fear of being alone?

You will learn about emotional and sexual intimacy and reasons why both may be difficult.

I will share ways to make changes to the way you show up and how to make improvements in your relationships.

Price: £29.00

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In this workshop, you will get the opportunity to reflect and understand how your own experience at boarding school may have shaped your development and influenced your identity as a woman.

I explore subjects such as relationships with other women, our own sexual development and how that may affect your sexuality now. Do you have your own inner misogyny now as a result of growing up in an institution with strong patriarchal values and how does that show up today?

Do you carry shame about who you are? It is often the male experience of boarding school that is spoken about and in this workshop you will get the opportunity to reflect, use your voice and recognise that your voice and experience matters.

You matter.

Price: £29.00

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Did your partner go to boarding school? Are you curious about how their experience may have impacted them? Does your partner find it difficult to express to you how their schooling was for them?

For many ex-boarders it can be incredibly difficult to share the details of what it may have been like for them growing up in an institution. Many people don't have the words and the belief that it is a privilege can cause people to feel silenced about their own experience.

In this webinar you will start to understand what children have to go through when they go away to boarding school, the ways that they have to adapt themselves to life in an institution and how this can impact and shape their behaviour as adults.

It may be helpful for you both to watch together as it will enable communication and discussion.

I offer advice and support for you, as well as ways that you can support your partner if they are in therapy or taking part in my online course.

Price: £29.00

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Starlings is the community that continues after Beyond the Blueprint ends. It exists because change rarely happens alone, and the conversations that helped you understand yourself in the programme are often the same ones that help you act differently in real life. Inside Starlings you stay connected to people who already understand your experience, without having to explain yourself from scratch. There are monthly live gatherings, an Anchor Hour each month for breathing and gentle grounding, and an ongoing WhatsApp community for the moments in between. It is not group therapy. It is company for the stage where insight needs to become action.

39 a month. No minimum term — leave whenever you need to.
For those who have completed my six-month programme.


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A one-day in person workshop for women ready to reclaim their sense of self-worth

Worthy for Women is a full day of guided exploration, honest conversation, and embodied practice, designed to help you understand where your sense of worth was lost, and begin the process of reclaiming it.

Date to be announced in soon.

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Shadow work weekends can be transformative for ex-boarders.  A weekend such as the one run by Catherine Newell and Jono Condous in Hove offers a safe, well held and contained space, away from the demands of everyday life, where feelings can be expressed somatically rather than only talked about. Many ex-boarders learned early to keep certain parts of themselves hidden, out of shame or out of necessity, and a weekend like this creates room for those parts to surface. As the work is somatic, it often reaches feelings that talking therapy alone cannot always access, and can lead to real breakthroughs that continue to unfold in everyday life long after the weekend ends.

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Family constellation work can be especially useful for ex-boarders. It often uncovers patterns held in our family systems, sometimes across generations, that we were never consciously aware of. This can matter enormously if your parents are no longer alive, or if the conversations you need are ones you cannot have in real life. The work also tends to bring emotion to the surface in a way that is harder to manage or shut down than in individual talking therapy, which is part of what makes it so effective.  Below is a link to a conversation with Liz Sleeper who explains more about it. 

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EMDR can be especially effective at this stage, once you already understand where a pattern comes from and are ready to work with what still has a grip on you. It uses bilateral stimulation, often eye movements, to help the brain process memories that have stayed stuck and overly charged, memories that talking about alone has not always been able to shift. For many ex-boarders this means a specific moment (such as a drop off ) that still carries more weight than it should. EMDR does not erase what happened. It changes your relationship to the memory, so it stops running the show.