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This page is a list of everything I currently offer from 1:1 therapy, Courses and workshops and free resources.
People arrive here at very different points. Some of you are reading an article for the first time, wondering if this really applies to you. Some of you have already done a great deal of work and are trying to work out what happens after the work. This page is organised around three stages, so you can find the part that matches where you actually are, rather than where you think you should be.
Phase One: Awareness
Something keeps happening. In your relationships, in your work, in the quiet moments when you notice how hard it still is to let someone close to you. You cannot quite explain it, but it keeps showing up.
This is often where it begins. Somebody mentions boarding school syndrome, or you read something that names a feeling you thought was only yours. You go looking for more: a book, a podcast, an interview, an article that gets closer to the truth than the last one did.
Researching your way into understanding is often the first step, and also the one that most people who went to boarding school are comfortable doing.
To assist you with this stage below you will find:
- A free download exploring the early adaptations of boarding school and how they show up in adult life
- A free recorded webinar addressing twelve common ways boarding school can affect adult behaviour
- The resources page, with books, videos and articles that go deeper
- My blog articles, for shorter pieces on specific patterns and questions.
Understanding this intelectually is where this starts and this may be enough for you. It now makes sense to you as to why you have some of the behaviour traits that you do. It is often a huge lightbulb moment for people.
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FREE WEBINARS & RESOURCES
WHEN SUCCESS DOESN'T FEEL ENOUGH - FREE ONLINE WORKSHOP
RESOURCES PAGE
HOW TO HEAL FROM GROWING UP IN BOARDING SCHOOL - FREE DOWNLOAD
12 STEPS TO ADDRESS THE IMPACT OF BOARDING SCHOOL ON ADULT BEHAVIOUR - FREE WEBINAR
BlOG ARTICLES
Phase Two: The Deep Dive into Acceptance.
Understanding what happened is one thing, but feeling what it may have cost you is another.
This is the stage where the intellectual picture becomes personal. Grief you may have shut yourself off from starts to surface and anger you never had permission to feel finds somewhere to go. You begin to see, in detail, how a boarding school childhood shaped the way you love, work and trust.
This work can take more than one form, and there is no single correct way through it. Below I have listed some ways you may wish to support yourself if you wish to step into Phase 2.
- Beyond the Blueprint: a structured programme built for this stage, with modules, tools, and a community of people doing the same work alongside you, at your own pace.
- Individual therapy: where you can learn to trust and relationship with a therapist who understands and you can share your experiences and connect with your feelings.
- EMDR: helpful where specific memories still carry an outsized charge
- Group Therapy:
- Attending workshops. Explore a single theme in your own time, including intimacy, neurodivergence, and what boarding school may have meant for you as a woman
COURSES and WORKSHOPS
WHEN SUCCESS DOESN'T FEEL ENOUGH - FREE ONLINE WORKSHOP
BEYOND THE BLUPRINT COURSE FOR EX-BOARDERS
Neurodivergence and Boarding School Pre-Recorded Workshop
Intimacy and Relationships Pre-Recorded Workshop
Pre-Recorded Workshop + Handbook for Women Ex-Boarders
Understanding The Impacts of Boarding School For Partners
THERAPY
INDIVIDUAL THERAPY
SINGLE SESSION THERAPY
Phase Three: Change
You understand yourself now. You can see the patterns, name the personality you built to survive, explain why closeness has always felt risky. And still, sometimes, it catches you.
This is the stage many people get stuck in: full of insight, short on movement. Phase three is where insight turns into risk. A conversation with a parent you have avoided for years. Staying in a relationship instead of leaving with one foot already out the door. Trying, deliberately, to do something differently.
For some people this stage includes somatic work, EMDR, family constellations, or other approaches that work through the body rather than only the mind. For most people it also includes other people.
- The Starlings Community: a place to stay connected after the programme ends, without losing the thread of what began there
- Worthy for Women: a one day in person workshop for women ready to explore what they are worth outside of what they produce
You don't have to lose the armour, just release a few chinks.
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